tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8136268241054850544.post8766460067397732600..comments2024-03-27T18:48:10.583-04:00Comments on Soberbia: Yesamyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04611431855409976777noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8136268241054850544.post-57098448410695937362014-07-19T11:17:53.569-04:002014-07-19T11:17:53.569-04:00I loved this post. I've just read it through t...I loved this post. I've just read it through twice. I'm reading this book at the moment too, and have found it revelatory, though also quite difficult in some ways. I have found that I have been watching my own emotions and reactions with far more awareness than I have in the past, which has sometimes lead to me finding them harder to handle, or more intense in some ways. This business of saying "yes" to experience I am finding particularly difficult, as I seem to have a heart that is of the "no" variety, all curled up tight in a ball like a sulky child refusing to come out and play or even to be mollified. The more I try to soften it, to open it up and say yes, the more resistance I can feel inside. I struggle with holding my own heart, my feelings, fears and failures with compassion. I'm finding this hard to articulate - sorry if it doesn't make much sense! I think it's a book that I will need to read more than once to take it in… I feel like I need some hand holding through it. These are changes that I cannot easily make. Thanks for the post and your thoughts on this book. Lovely to hear your positivity :) xxxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8136268241054850544.post-30497084891944203992014-07-19T08:23:39.048-04:002014-07-19T08:23:39.048-04:00Great post. I too had the automatic "no"...Great post. I too had the automatic "no" reaction for so long. And I find it's still my go-to. I recently read something about making commitments to life, being bold. I thought, *that's* how to live. So that's what I've been trying. The book sounds good though. Especially what you wrote in the comments too, about the pauses. I could use more of those in life. Thanks for sharing! Ms. Beccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06888981729413295412noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8136268241054850544.post-67994053971118315622014-07-16T21:58:17.935-04:002014-07-16T21:58:17.935-04:00Haven't jumped on the Tara Brach train yet, bu...Haven't jumped on the Tara Brach train yet, but y'all talk about her a lot. I will get to her, methinks. But the yes thing I get. Everything for me was an automatic NO, regardless of who was asking or even what they were asking. it was an outright "forget about it" even when I didn't even hear the whole question. I feared the yes, the immediate acceptance and the unknown of the YES. Still frightens me at times, but what's the downside? I don't know, I am still afraid to try new things or get out of my comfort zone, but then again I did that my whole life and it was a shit biscuit at best (I just made that term up - I am feeling a bit "cursey" tonight...lol)<br /><br />Great post - miss your fine, wise words. This ought to keep me going for a while.<br /><br />PaulAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11268135630773902295noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8136268241054850544.post-57246897579482322922014-07-16T15:39:45.434-04:002014-07-16T15:39:45.434-04:00You're welcome! :)You're welcome! :)amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05121059866790215726noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8136268241054850544.post-28756227383191755482014-07-16T15:39:28.082-04:002014-07-16T15:39:28.082-04:00My son's therapist recommended Dr. Amen to me....My son's therapist recommended Dr. Amen to me. I've read his website. Will check out some more stuff- thanks! :)amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05121059866790215726noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8136268241054850544.post-39549783501724690452014-07-16T15:38:22.330-04:002014-07-16T15:38:22.330-04:00And I didn't even get to the pauses part! All ...And I didn't even get to the pauses part! All day now I stop and have these nice little pauses. And yes's. It helps- immensely. Agreeing to what the universe throws out instead of ranting against it helps immensely too. There's lots brewing in Soberbia! :) And I know you get it. xoxoxoamyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05121059866790215726noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8136268241054850544.post-17304497394157912702014-07-16T15:35:40.648-04:002014-07-16T15:35:40.648-04:00BIG LOVE back! Thank goodness for Tara Brach. She ...BIG LOVE back! Thank goodness for Tara Brach. She has almost reached Anne Lamott status with me. xoxoamyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05121059866790215726noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8136268241054850544.post-47590069104291031712014-07-16T15:32:26.703-04:002014-07-16T15:32:26.703-04:00I'm so good at yes for the wrong things: yes, ...I'm so good at yes for the wrong things: yes, another cookie. Yes, another twenty minutes of self flagellation for eating cookies. Yes, I shouldn't have, but I did anyway. Giving thanks and saying yes to the green lights and plain thank yous to the compliments instead of explaining them away. Saying yes in my head when the kids are arguing to remind myself it will work out. It's so frustrating sometimes that acceptance really is the answer. Dammit. The fear that things won't work out makes yes so hard. But you know, we can do hard stuff- and mostly with grace too. Thanks for commenting and for being awesome. :) amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05121059866790215726noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8136268241054850544.post-1216964779159204682014-07-16T13:49:35.876-04:002014-07-16T13:49:35.876-04:00Amy have you heard of Dr. Amen he's a neurolog...Amy have you heard of Dr. Amen he's a neurologist who writes about our automatic negative thought.He calls the ants.He stares some of us have more than others to stomp on them.Google him he's books are pretty helpful.lora in hawaiihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06744657571790358915noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8136268241054850544.post-70492853097821677222014-07-16T03:42:56.116-04:002014-07-16T03:42:56.116-04:00Well..
you KNOW I am going to love this one.
That...Well..<br /><br />you KNOW I am going to love this one.<br />That book has rocked my world completely lately, and I posted about some of the YES I was learning too!<br />And that quote.."I felt the inner freedom that comes from agreeing unconditionally to life"...<br />unconditionally is a huge word...no conditions, acceptance f exactly what is and.on to of that, AGREEING to it!<br />that is radical.<br />I noticed in your previous post you read Patti Smith's Just Kids (i loved that too)... more radical there. Seems like something is brewing up here in Soberbia, love it and identify like crazy!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8136268241054850544.post-57205556101729802732014-07-15T20:09:48.920-04:002014-07-15T20:09:48.920-04:00yes yes yes yes yes go you amy… wow you are really...yes yes yes yes yes go you amy… wow you are really diving in.. this is wonderful… the real work… thank goodness you got sober.. fan-bloody-tastic (even though it's rough and uncomfortable I know..) Sending BIG LOVE from New Zealand xxxMrs Dhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13110933370498728198noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8136268241054850544.post-47938879335464474782014-07-15T15:08:04.149-04:002014-07-15T15:08:04.149-04:00You're right that it's big for a regular T...You're right that it's big for a regular Tuesday morning, bigger than I could've taken this morning.<br />But it sure is lovely to read. thank you!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8136268241054850544.post-51272461313268997222014-07-15T14:42:24.003-04:002014-07-15T14:42:24.003-04:00Oh Amy, I do love your wisdom so. I like how you d...Oh Amy, I do love your wisdom so. I like how you define Yes because it is a concept I struggle with, even though I know acceptance is the answer (always. seriously.). I can accept my ever procrastinating but still precious kids, as well as those precious green lights. Life really is a mix, and no sense in me trying to black-and-white a day and missing out on the green lights and compliments because I'm in a state. Definitely agree it's about fear. It's starting to sink in, slowly. Some days not so much. Today your post really truly helped me. Thank you so much. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com