tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8136268241054850544.post8775858462760243081..comments2024-03-29T03:15:31.121-04:00Comments on Soberbia: Phew.amyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04611431855409976777noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8136268241054850544.post-79223948714502511492013-10-23T06:55:09.237-04:002013-10-23T06:55:09.237-04:00Email me! My address is posted above. :)Email me! My address is posted above. :)amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05121059866790215726noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8136268241054850544.post-62612674533867329172013-10-23T06:31:19.773-04:002013-10-23T06:31:19.773-04:00Oh, the anger thing. I thought I was this peaceful...Oh, the anger thing. I thought I was this peaceful person until I realized um, wait. You are pretty damn angry! I need some help with that. <br /><br />There is another group, but I'm feeling sort of gun shy since the level of commitment in my last group was meh. I think out of 8 of us only 3 of us stayed sober for the duration of the group. Welcome to alcoholism. I'm going to talk to my therapist about it today. And the anger thing too.<br /><br />I hope that by giving Jack someone to talk to that is "his" he will feel good about his place in the world. Listened to. Heard. I think that if I'd felt more listened to and heard as a child I would have been better able to handle growing up. amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05121059866790215726noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8136268241054850544.post-3369544864022042622013-10-23T06:26:16.205-04:002013-10-23T06:26:16.205-04:00So. Are. YOU!
The thing about therapy is.....bei...So. Are. YOU! <br /><br />The thing about therapy is.....being honest. It is fucking hard not to sugar coat it. To make things better so the therapist doesn't think you suck. Once I just let go and said the ugly stuff and she stayed in the room I was OK. <br /><br />The counters, and this week also the coffee table is covered in Legos. Lord.amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05121059866790215726noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8136268241054850544.post-59158911941301630862013-10-23T06:23:41.742-04:002013-10-23T06:23:41.742-04:00Gah, grow out of it. Bullshit. I think you grow ev...Gah, grow out of it. Bullshit. I think you grow even more into it!<br /><br />Yes, YES! My husband has pants with a hole in the crotch that he wears in public ALL THE TIME. He says the same thing about his 20 yr. old t-shirts, "No! I can do yardwork in that!" :)amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05121059866790215726noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8136268241054850544.post-77754242944221530912013-10-23T06:20:57.557-04:002013-10-23T06:20:57.557-04:00Asking for help is so....helpful. Thank you for al...Asking for help is so....helpful. Thank you for all of this. Every bit. amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05121059866790215726noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8136268241054850544.post-29505935651017954322013-10-22T18:51:16.960-04:002013-10-22T18:51:16.960-04:00Help me? I would like to talk/internetwhatever wi...Help me? I would like to talk/internetwhatever with you. N.North by South-Westhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16506822012969966651noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8136268241054850544.post-9266362863173022512013-10-22T00:26:31.691-04:002013-10-22T00:26:31.691-04:00So much going on...wow.
One of the great things a...So much going on...wow.<br /><br />One of the great things about a group, or at least having some others who know you a bit and see you like those women in the group, you get *perspective*. And when you hear their feedback, and when you do that writing exercise of what it has been the last six months - you get a whole new way of looking at things, don't you? It would be great for everyone to do that - and have others add their 2 cents. We are so hard on ourselves, and are usually the last to see what changes are made. It's illuminating to hear how others experience you and see you. What a difference it makes.<br /><br />As for the group - sorry to hear it ending! Is there another one starting again?<br /><br />Glad to hear that Jack is in therapy. sometimes we just need a nudge in the right direction, and that might just be it. Hell, I had to learn how to live and act when I turned 40! I had not much of a clue until then...think of others? Do things for people? Not fly off the handle on the dumbest thing? Think before I act or speak? Huh? So I don't see a problem for a boy to be learning this too, before it gets too far gone. <br /><br />And anger? We all have it...to varying degrees. It took me years in therapy to finally, finally see that I had ANGER ISSUES. Boy did I have them. But we learn to deal with anger, and not have it be the scary thing that it may seem.<br /><br />Great stuff, Amy, and glad to hear that you and Sherry hooked up. So jealous!<br /><br />Blessings,<br />PaulAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8136268241054850544.post-43069698956956796802013-10-21T12:58:28.630-04:002013-10-21T12:58:28.630-04:00*get not bet*get not betSoberMomWriteshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04845259535764391849noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8136268241054850544.post-2554770025202087962013-10-21T12:58:00.033-04:002013-10-21T12:58:00.033-04:00You. Are. An. Amazing. Woman.
To bet that brave t...You. Are. An. Amazing. Woman.<br /><br />To bet that brave to dig that deep and get that raw for yourself AND for your son...there are no words.<br /><br />After our day, I'm looking into some therapy for me as well. I've done it before but was never happy with the results (or lack thereof). Maybe I wasn't ready...we'll see.<br /><br />And in your spare time, could you get the counters cleared and cleaned? It's driving me bat shit crazy!<br /><br />SherrySoberMomWriteshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04845259535764391849noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8136268241054850544.post-13094492614701173932013-10-21T12:12:59.176-04:002013-10-21T12:12:59.176-04:00I can only second what Annette said, God gives us ...I can only second what Annette said, God gives us the children that need us as parents. You are so brave to confront all of his trials and your own imperfections, so many parents just say, "They'll grow out of it." We don't grow out of our childhood, we carry it with us.<br /><br />And OMG!!! The papers, the stacks, the receipts that we must keep that never get looked at, the cap'n is a hoarder and he's driving me crazy. I threw away a shirt with battery acid holes in it the other day and he pulled it out of the trash. "I can use this as a work shirt." Argghh!Kary Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12674442468925628974noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8136268241054850544.post-48574594032216603232013-10-21T10:24:06.709-04:002013-10-21T10:24:06.709-04:00Getting help is good. Acknowledging that we aren&#...Getting help is good. Acknowledging that we aren't doing this job perfectly can be a relief. Saying out loud, that we need help to figure this stuff out is freeing. Its shining light on the dark corners where the dust bunnies live and saying, "Ha! There they are!" and then shooing them away. Its scary to let someone in and to let them see the *real you,* all of you, but its also so good. Its opening a door to all of your freedom. <br />And I say all of the above from my own experiences of shining light on my dark places. <3<br />Your sweet boy is so lucky to have you. I don't believe that the kids we end up with or the parents they end up with, is ever a mistake.....I think its a well put together plan by a power greater than us. You are exactly the right mama for your boy and this post shows all of us some of the reasons why. <br />I love that you can see your mom with gentle eyes also. That made me cry. I hope my kids can develop that sort of vision for me. It took a while, but I was able to have it for my mom and it was a gift for the both of us. I am loving reading here.....and I am so interested in what your website is and what your book is all about.Annettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18326425173333184401noreply@blogger.com