Sunday, November 17, 2013

Getting A Miracle




The Good Housekeeping article! Thanks to everyone for your support and kind words. I've gotten a few emails from people who say things like "divine intervention" and "just in time" and that has been really really cool. Y'all know I deep down believe that when you pray the universe will answer, but you have to listen, and if someone reading about me getting sober helps them get sober.....the totally amazingness of that is big to contemplate.

That article coming out led to this:



  • Hey, Hope all is well. I wanted to give you a heads up about something that has happened/been happening for awhile now. Amy has quit drinking alcohol as is was a problem for her and our family. She will be 1 year sober this Dec 7th. I am very proud of her and her ongoing accomplishment. This has been a strugle that she has taken on full steam. Bravo on many levels my sweet. As a part of her healing process, she started a blog about her struggle. The name of the blog is Soberbia. It is a journal so to speak, of her struggles. As it turns out, many people read and comment on this blog as it speaks true and in line with other peoples problems with alcohol. This blog is out there for everyone to read and we are happy that so many do! Warning, there is colorful language, plain and simple. A few months ago, Amy was contacted by Good Housekeeping asking about her blog. As it turns out they have a column that is all about self-help/betterment, and they wanted to feature her in the magazine. She said OK. We were hoping to get an opportunity to speak about this in person and figured the wedding wasn't right, so here I am not in person letting you know. The article is scheduled to be in the December issue of Good Housekeeping. As it turns out, December is released the first of November. We were unaware that it was going to be on the newsstands this soon, or we would have talked sooner. We wanted you to be aware in case that someone approached you about the article. I am very proud of Amy and hope that you will support her as I and the children have over this last year. Sorry this is coming to you via email, but it is the most effective way for me to articulate our feelings to everyone.
    Please tell Gram and anyone else that you feel necessary.
    Love to all!
    Jonathan
    December 2013 Page 69 in the "Feel Good" section
    Amy you are a rock star, keep up the great work, Jack Hampton and I are so Proud!


This letter took my breath away. So much love coming from my husband to me that I felt about 27 million feet tall. My heart feels so full. Then I called his grandmother (who is 88 and an old school southern lady) and had to tell her I was an alcoholic, and that pretty much everyone might know about it since I was in a magazine.

"Oh Amy! I am so proud of you!" she said, not missing a beat. Not one second of disapproval. NOT ONE. "Good for you!" she said. More love. More taller.

Then the email from Jonathan's mom came:

I am so thankful that you have shared this with us! I only wish I had known earlier. I would have been praying for Amy....for all of you...and would have been one of her biggest cheerleaders this past year. I have plenty of love and support to give. I have started reading the blog.....from the beginning.....but since I do have to get some work done, I have to save the rest until I'm home. I am SO PROUD of you Amy! My heart is about to pop! Love you so much! Mimi/Mom

Now I am hugely tall. Taller than ever. My heart swelled to as big as it could get, and then stretched out to make room for the support coming from my family and people out in the world who don't even know me but believe in me.

Whoa. Thank you universe. I needed that. Ask and ye shall receive. But you have to ask. And also receive.

It seems like that when you put yourself out there you can get what you give. So I put myself way on out there (way way on out there) and the universe made sure I was safe, and loved, and OK. That since I did something brave I could feel the love that was coming from everywhere: but I had to open my heart to get it. When I said to the world "Here I am: but for real though" the world said "Cool. Here's this love. You are OK."

Sometimes when you spend all your time hiding love just can't find you, no matter how hard you wish for it to show up. But then you stop hiding and love shows up. When you say things like "Help" and "Here I am" and you squinch your eyes closed and hope for the best and then open your eyes and the best shows up too. And then you realize that even a little best is so much better than your old idea of best, and this new big big biggest best is amazing and like a miracle.

That you are loved and that a lot of that love comes from within you yourself is a miracle too.

Getting close to my year anniversary and getting emails from people just starting out makes me think about all the things I was just a year ago. Scared. Drunk. Hidden. Worried. Sad. Unable. Suffocating. Drowning. Full of undone wishing. Under my pretty regular life I was a pretty big mess holding it together with linty old tape and fraying dirty string- liable to break at any moment.

A year ago today I was probably hungover. Then I woke up that one day and decided I wanted my miracle. That I could have it. That things like "love" and "best" were actually for naked mole rat people like me too. That I could put down the thing that made me unable to see the gifts the universe had been holding out to me all along. That I was worthy. And strong. Capable. That I was a live-r and not a life-r.

And so maybe here you are: hungover. What if at this time next year you've been sober for almost a year now? What if you look around and decide it's time for your miracle too? What if you think it will be too hard, and that you can't can't can't but then you do it anyway?

If you are reading this you can have your miracle too. I give you permission from me and the universe because the universe once gave me permission and told me it was OK to offer it to anyone else who needed it. It's hard and sad and glorious and you won't even believe that it's you anymore until that day when you've been sober for a while and you suddenly realize you're the you-est you you've ever been. Then you will drop to your knees in you heart and give out thanks for strength and for yourself. You will be soul naked and scared but you will be you and you will love yourself so much for it. And you will cry this deep heartfelt cry, and as the tears of joy and blessing roll down your face you will know.

You are a miracle too.




21 comments:

  1. Feeling the love all the way in Minnesota. All of our hearts are swelling right along with yours! Things are turning up Amy! So glad you are in such a supportive and loving place. One year....right around the corner...

    Christine

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    1. Thank you! I am so thankful you are here, with all of us.

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  2. This made me teary. Getting sober IS such a miracle. I am so happy for you and for the good fortune that surrounds you. SO wonderful. Thank you for being an inspiration! xx -Jen

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    1. I bawled my eyes out. But they were happy tears. Thank you for being brave and sober too. :)

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  3. I read your article and have decided I was just like you and I want to quit too. I am on day two. Please help me stay sober for my family. My kids are now 12 and 14. This has been a problem for a couple of years but your article is changing my life for the better. Thank you, thank you

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    1. Day 2 is day 3 by now. Keep holding on. Write to me if you want to. Thank you for being willing to do a good thing for yourself and for your family. You can.

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  4. Oh Amy....Bravo mama! And bravo family of Amy! You are loved...plain and simple. Your family had a chance to show you and they jumped at it, because they do. They love you. This made me teary too....I am so happy for you and all of your self discovery. It is such a freaking gift when we begin to feel like maybe, just maybe, we really are ok.

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    1. Thank you! We are really really ok. Xoxo

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  5. Such beautiful thoughts, and what a loving family. You deserve to feel like a giant! I love finding me inside since I started this journey, I like me , who knew! Thanks for always inspiring.

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    1. Thank you! I have found that the more I open my heart and let myself be loved the more love that I am given.

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  6. Words cannot express how happy I am for you right now! I just read your last post and tried to read as much of the article as I could from the picture you'd taken of it... (I cannot find an online copy) You have done such a brave and amazing thing and I'm sure lots of people reading it will relate to it, just as they do your blog. What you said about hiding your sobriety, just as you hid your drinking, really resonated with me. I am getting louder and prouder about my sobriety but the idea of a magazine article about it terrifies me right now. I want to be where you are!! Congratulations again, this is awesome x

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    1. Thank you! I can't find it online either so I'll scan it and post it. It's cool how you really start to feel right, and how there is no need to hide it. And when you show people what you're made of they hold you up instead of put you down. Which means you're hanging around the right people. You are where I am. As long as you are true to you magazines don't matter. A lifetime of sobriety will affect more people than you could ever know. Xoxo

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  7. Naked mole rat reminds me of an old cartoon I used to watch with the kids. Kim Possible was about a crime fighting girl who was FIERCE. And that's what I think of when I read this...you are FIERCE!

    Congrats my fierce friend.

    Sherry

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    1. Thank you! I feel mostly fierce. :)

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  8. Wow sooooo lovely and great. So well deserved. You take all the praise and kudos my friend and lap it up. You are so worth it all.. what you have done is brave and strong and really really worth a heap of recognition. Amazing that we come from feeling so shamed to realising that there is no shame in admitting a problem and overcoming it. How could that possibly be shameful! Fantastic stuff. xxxx

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  9. Thank you so much. You've been a big part of this. No shame. None needed. I love who I am. Ain't that grand? :) xoxo

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  10. This makes me feel teary too...in a good way! What a brave and spirited woman you are, and what a wonderful family you have; and you deserve them. Way to go, Amy!!!

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    1. Thank you! I love a good happy cry.

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  11. I have said this before, and I am going to (sigh) say it again Amy. I remember your posts from early on. Lots of hand wringing (we all do that - I still do), lots of inner conflict, lots of fear, lots of being unsure...and as you have progressed in your journey, your words shifted. The intentions and emotions behind the words changed. Ever so slightly, but enough to notice. Then they changed again. And now...look. Stand back and take a quick glance. Where you were then...and where you are now. Not just the article (which is a testament to where you are), but the confidence, the sureness, the feeling that you are being taken care of. Doesn't mean crap doesn't happen and we have bad days (we certainly do), but there is an inner peace that pervades, and things like this article happen because there is a divine presence and direction put out there for you. And you walk in. In love, not fear.

    Bravo, my dear.

    Blessings
    Paul

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    1. Paul, your support has been such a gift to me! I do feel stronger thsn I ever have- and more importantly- deserving of that good feeling. I think it's when you finally believe that you aren't going to keep hurting yourself with alcohol anymore that you just start to feel the inner strength showing up. And then you keep practicing and you get stronger. Thank you for you.

      Cheers! (Remember when we used to always say that?) :)

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